Top 30 Reasons Why Men
Cheat

The
truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have a greater capacity
to diminish us than the exposed ones. We may think that when we lie to our girls
and we are not caught, that we are the hero, no! These lies erode our strength,
our self-esteem, our very foundation. This is an aspect that guys do not know. The
most painful part is that most guys do it proudly openly while the girls if
need be, would do it in a hidden way with their subconscious rebuking them.
Carl Lewis once urged that people have a moral standard about what they will do and
will not do. At the end of the day someone who cheats has a lower moral
standard than someone who does not. And there is every possibility that they
will cheat in other areas of life as well. Whether or not that is
true, this
piece is not out to castigate the men neither is it targeted at subjugating
them to their partners, it is aimed at three simple reasons: to help the women
understand the reasons behind this common sexual behavior of a typical, modern
man in our contemporary society; to help decrease the probability that you will
be cheated on by the guy that you are dating; and to help you, as a woman,
handle yourself and the situation much better if your current or future boy
friend or husband ends up having an affair outside.

1. Inability to say no. He unknowingly attracts
sexy women who come onto him, and he doesn’t know how to say “no”.
2. To boost his ego – Infidelity is an ego
boost for a man with low self esteem – especially if he’s less successful or
earns less money than his partner.
3. Peer Pressure. He spends a lot of
time in the company of people who cheat. His workmates, or close friends are
cheating on their mates. So he succumbs to peer pressure and cheats just to
follow the bandwagon.
4. To end the relationship. Sometime a cheating
man will have what is called an “exit affair” because he wants to end the
marriage or relationship. Instead of manning up and telling you it’s over, he
takes the coward’s way out, knowing that if you catch him cheating, you’ll
leave him or kick him out thereby giving him a quick ticket to leave.
5. Because you let him- He cheated before
you let him get away with it. You did not stand firm on your ground. You could
not reprimand him for his action. You let him win you over easily. He will
still do it after all, you will have no choice but to stay firm to the
relationship instead of going from one man to the other. These will be his
thoughts.
6. He views it as a status symbol. Many men consider it
a status symbol to be able to afford a mistress. He may view it as one of the
trappings of success. “Do you know how many babes I’ve slept with?” he would
boast among his friends.
7. To satisfy his sexual status and orientation. If he’s gay or
bisexual, he may cheat on you by having affairs with other men.
8. To see what it’s like to have sex
with someone else.
Men who married young, or had limited sex experience before settling down, may
cheat to see what they might have missed.
9. Because he knows he can get away
with it. He cheated
before and you didn’t find out, so he’s confident he can do it again and you
won’t find out. It’s now left for you to device a means to catch him.
10. Opportunistic sex. He was presented with
an opportunity to cheat without the fear of getting caught, so he took
advantage of the situation. This is how good men end up denting their names and
cheating on their mates.
11. A Sense of Entitlement. Many men feel they’re
so rich, famous, handsome, sexy, charming or they have all it takes to attract
any girl and besides, every girl (fans) wants to be with them, so, they are
entitled to cheat because of who they are.
12. He figures you’ll never find out– He thinks you’re
too stupid, too naïve, too busy, too in love with him, too trusting to find
out, or even suspect that he’s having an affair.
13. To prove his manhood. Some men think that
the more women they have sex with, the more manly they are. They think cheating
is a macho thing to do.
14. The thrill of the chase. Some cheaters
actually thrive on the excitement generated by a secret affair. They view all
the ducking, dodging and sneaking around infidelity involves as a form of
recreation, or a high-risk sport.
15. He’s a player. He’s a hardcore
cheater for whom cheating is a way of life. He likes having lots of women and
pitting one against the other. To him, cheating is just a game. He believes to
be the winner.
16. He knows you’ll take him back. He knows you’ll never
leave him. He cheated before and you didn’t hesitate to take him back without
making him go through any changes or holding him accountable for his behavior.
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17. Love. Some men cheat
because they’re really in love with the other woman. It may have started out as
a cyber affair, or an innocent friendship that became an emotional affair,
which progressed to sexual infidelity.
18. Poor role models If his father,
uncles, or other male role models cheated, he may subconsciously be programmed
to follow their example, considering infidelity to be the norm – especially if
the female role models in his life tolerated the infidelity.
19. To participate in certain sex acts.
Some
men cheat to fulfill their sexual fantasies, or because they want kinky sex, or
sex acts their wives or girlfriends won’t perform.
20. The influence of drugs or alcohol A great deal of
infidelity ( especially one night stands) can be attributed to the influence
drugs or alcohol, which can lower inhibitions, and impair good judgment,
resulting in behavior the cheater may later regret.
21. Cultural reasons– He may come from a
culture (Yoruba, or Igbo) where it’s common for men to have mistresses and or
marry more than one wife.
22. To see if he’s still “got it.” Men in their 50’s and
older sometimes cheat just to reaffirm their sexuality. They cheat to prove
they can still attract and sexually satisfy another woman – usually one who is
younger than their mate.
23. He knows you’ll put up with his
cheating Some
men cheat because they know their partner will look the other way - as long as
they’re discreet, keep their infidelity low key, and avoid publicly
embarrassing their mate.
24. Revenge. Though revenge
cheating is more with women than with men, sometimes a man will cheat to get
back a wife or girlfriend who cheated on him… the most painful is doing it with
her friend or someone she always disliked.
25. Sex addiction– probably the only
reason on this list that can halfway be excused because true sex addiction is a
medical condition in which the cheater really can’t help himself. If he’s truly
a sex addict, he needs to get professional help. But true sex addiction is not
as common as men would have you believe.
26. Testing another Girl. He wants to feel how the other girls are as compared to his partner.
27. She
has nothing else to give him but her beauty and sex. They
are not very interesting or funny, and there is nothing about their personality
that would make the guy want to see them again, except of course their
physical beauty. Men will lie about how much they like that woman in order to
get sex from her, while others will be sincerely blinded by attraction and will
truly believe that they want to get to know that woman even though all they are
attracted to is her body. However, shortly after getting sex from that woman a
few times, these men will realize that there is nothing else that they want
from her and they will be eager to get away from her and be with someone, whose
company they enjoy outside of the bedroom as well.
28. Not Good Enough on Bed. Though painfully
simple but surprisingly common – many women are simply not good enough in bed
to keep their partner sexually happy, excited and satisfied. They don’t know
what they are doing with their bodies, hands and mouth. Few men will stick
around and appreciate a woman who is a mediocre sex partner. I have seen many
guys dump very beautiful women for that exact reason. Those women’s beauty was
“neutralized” by their incompetence or their behavior during intimacy that
chilled romance.
29. Her quick
anger chases him away so
he may want to seek contentment generally elsewhere.
30. She is being too
jealous. Because
of this, she is not giving him breathing space. No guy wants this. When this happens,
he may begin to avoid her.
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